01. How has LJ changed your life?
At least I write some words everyday. Also, the comments from other people often bring me smiles.

02. What do you do before bedtime?
It used to be a bit of a film I've rented, then quality time with the hub. Now it is all about the breastfeeding...

03. What are you going to have for dinner tonight?
M&S Dine for two because I can't be bothered cooking, and I am saving so much money by not going out anymore.

04. What is the ONE place you want to go before you die if you had the money and the time?
Venice, but not on a budget.

05. What scares you?
The people that I care about realising I'm not as great as they think I am.

06. What do you do in your free time?
Watch tv and play Arkham Horror.

07. If you could speak another language (meaning one you currently don't know), what would it be?
Arabic, hello fantastic government job.

08. What personal belongings do you have with you everywhere you go?
My diary, in fact I have converted other people to their usefulness!

09. What was your favorite song or musical group when you were young?
I don't believe people will be that honest about this. Very young - Bros, bit older Bon Jovi, older again RHCP and early NIN!

10. Are you a risk taker?
Abso-f***ing-lutely

11. Is being tagged fun?
I wouldn't know (see below)

12. Where do you see yourself in ten years?
Living somewhere better, more kids, same job (but I'm ok with that) hopefully a couple of novels under my belt. If they are published, even better!

13. If you could be anyone for one day, who would you be?
Gwen Stefani...

14. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
I copied this from corone, no one really tags me (hell only 2 people read my journal...)

15. Would you rather be single & rich or married but poor?
married and poor (it often feels that I am that way already)

16. How many children do you want to have, if any?
3. 1 down, 2 to go!

17. Is reality objective or subjective?
Subjective.

18. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who would you pick?
The rich one. You can be unhappy in either relationship, but at least you would have great gifts.

19. Would you have 100% safe sex with a stranger for $10,000,000?
Yes. And my husband agrees!

20. What is your favorite color?
Red.

Why do these things always depress me?

1. If you were able to go back in time 10 years and talk to the younger you, what would you say?

Get yourself to Graduate School, preferably with a grant. Your degree will be worth shit in the big bad world. Stop going out with losers and get your thyroid checked out.

2. What would the you of 1998 think of the you of 2008, and why?

Your hair and clothes look much better than mine, but check out those wrinkles. I think I would be a mixed bag of impressed with the marriage and house but disappointed with the career.

3. The you of 2008 receives a letter from the you of 2018. What does the letter hopefully say?

It talks about how happy me and my family are, how everyone is healthy and doing well, and there were perhaps more than the 3 of us. Ideally we would be living in a better area and my husband would have had a promotion or two! I wish I could hope to have had something substantial published, but that might be a wish too far!

4. In the letter from the you of the future, you read something that surprises you, what is it?

My sister and her husband have emigrated!

5. You have the opportunity to switch places with the you of 1998 or the you of 2018 for a day, who do you switch places with and why?

I would switch places with the 1998 me. I would go in search of my husband and get to be with him a lot sooner (I know, vomit inducing). Swapping places with the 2018 me might be really depressing and sad and ruin the next ten years for me.

I guess all of that is pretty standard.....

Who sat down and decided what was right and wrong? Who divided all the actions into the world and said these are good and these are evil? Are evil acts the ones that hurt others? Yet hurting others can be socially acceptable - breaking up for example. When you feel like you're in love getting dumped can be as hurtful as losing a friend, and the effects as long lasting. Telling people they are ill and going to die, not giving them a job, refusing a grant for a dream, all these things are hurtful and fine in the eyes of the law. Perhaps it is causing pain for your own ends that is wrong. Then some personal gains at other people's expense can be okay too. Like in business, crushing the competition is a good thing. I've always wondered how free growing drug plants, created by evolution (God?) can be illegal, and in the same way, if something is part of the human experience called desire can it be wrong? If gay people are made that way then why not philanderers and thieves? And such can they really be blamed? Maybe it doesn't matter, because at the end of the day the only thing that really governs us is our conscience and how far we are willing to go to acheive our goals. If you accept the consequences of your actions you can do almost anything.